#JustBecause #IWasBored #Hi
#JustBecause #IWasBored #Hi
I recently saw a picture going around of Trey Songz & August Alsina with the caption “These two come up to you after their concert and ask you to come up to their hotel but you have a man waiting for you at home. What do you do?” (I wish I could find the picture for reference but I haven’t seen it since) Of course, some women decided they should let the world know they would cheat on their men in a heartbeat for the opportunity, which I won’t go into because that’s their life (don’t agree with it doe). But many women responded with variations of “I wouldn’t do it because I’m a not a ho” rather than just saying they’re in a relationship so they wouldn’t take part. I asked my girlfriend of 5.5 years (humble brag) what she would do & again, her INITIAL response was that she wasn’t a ho & they run through women all the time, etc., etc., until finally adding that because she was with me she wouldn’t do it.
At the time, I didn’t think twice about it but some days later, I thought to myself, “Well, why wouldn’t her first reason be because she’s in a relationship with me?” & I started to feel some kind of way (despite it not being about me at all). I had a conversation with some guy friends about the same situation but with female celebrities & their immediate responses were either they would do it (again, don’t agree) or that they wouldn’t do it because they’re in a relationship. Again, I started feeling some kind of way until I thought about the differences between men and women and about how society has these purity expectations that it tries to place on women but that men are mostly free from. If a man answers with “I wouldn’t do it because I’m in a relationship,” there really are no implications because whether he would do it if he wasn’t in a relationship or not is mostly irrelevant, as most people would probably assume he would & not judge him for it. But if a woman were to answer it the same way, men or women could read into it and accuse her of being a ho because if she weren’t in a relationship, she may or may not do it, rather than understanding that what she does with her body is her business and that it doesn’t make her a good or bad person.
It seems rather small in the grand scheme of things but it opened my eyes to just how brainwashed our society is in general. As a black man, I understand what people perceive when I walk into a room & that I have to be very careful about my actions because regardless of my intentions, people can very easily create situations in their minds that implicate me of something worse. But in the last couple of months, I’ve really been realizing that women go through a similar kind of inequality in which their actions are dictated (to a degree) by the lens that society would see them through. And I feel that I can’t be upset when I’m discriminated against if I’m subconsciously discriminating or oppressing women with my mindset. So instead of keeping these realizations to myself, I was hoping to open other people’s eyes as well.
Me against @tanishahampden. She didn’t do so hot 😳. I tagged her where all he property is cause she didn’t have any.
Latest CD pickups. 4 classics in my eyes. Originally just went to cop Kendrick’s LP because of how much it affected me but had to have the anniversary Illmatic & the other two were just pieces to add to my collection.
#BoredInTheBackOfTheCar #DrivingToNewYorkAndMyShiftBeenDone #WeArentEvenThatCloseYet #HaircutGotMeTakingLightSkinSelfies
Just because @likedejavu was trying to clown the other day, lol. #DontTellMeToSmile #ThugsDontSmile
I can’t brain this. They look like miniatures.
There must be a freedom in raw openness and honesty. I think this is why so many people turn to social media to share such intimate details of their lives.
I typically hid my emotions behind a smile no matter what I feel. I guess I am afraid of being seen. Like what if you put your true self out there and everybody hated you or pointed and laughed. I can’t imagine that the masses are putting themselves out there cause so many people seem awfully similar. That can’t be a coincidence. My guess is that everybody is hiding. Even if that’s not the case it makes me feel better about throwing on a smile but sometimes ya just gotta let it out.